Is There Need to Worry if My Teen is Hanging Around with Goths?
Modern Goths are basically a subculture of people that wear black. Their music, art and writings somewhat reflect darkness, but that is not necessarily connected to evil. There are some who believe in vampires, or purport to, but in many cases being Gothic is just a way of being different.
Stereotypes are often made regarding this subculture that will cause you to worry about teen risky behavior and the potential effects that the relationships might have regarding your teen's spiritual life. You may have heard that they are Satanists, violent, suicidal, drug addicts, or that they are into self-mutilation due to depression or a negative self-concept . In most cases, this is untrue or greatly exaggerated. Many people in this lifestyle are Christians and the subculture represents many religions. It isn’t a “religious” thing at all. In my view, based on “the lovers of darkness” that I have met, it is just a group of kids struggling to discover their identity. There is no need to worry about your teen associating with these people any more than you would with friends who are cowboys or athletes. Each individual has downfalls and you should view your teen’s friendships in that manner. These kids need love and many need to find their identity in Christ. As a Christian parent, beware of judging your teen’s friends based on their clothing. Take a look at the way they live, the music they listen to, the art that they engage in, and the activities that they do, and make the decision of whether or not the friendship is healthy for your child. Set clear boundaries for your teen. Keep the door to conversation open. Your curiosity is likely to make your teen’s friends feel accepted, when many of them feel rejected by society, which can be the reason they got into the subculture. Showing them love and acceptance will also give you the opportunity to minister to them when the time is right. Websites that may be helpful…What is a Goth?A Christian Perspective You might also be interested in this book…If you have read any books or website articles that you find to be helpful to parents who struggle with this issue, please post a book review or article review. Where would like to go next?Teenage Parenting
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